He told me some really awesome things today. Awesome may not be the right word. Deeply-poignant. Breath-arresting.
It was about shame.
Shame is an inhibitory response. It slows you down, takes you away from the negative stimulation. It's like death.
We don't like this. We fight it with defenses. We withdraw, avoid, attack other, or attack self.
Nicolosi talked about the Gray Zone: "It is a defense mechanism from feeling the pain of the shame that preceded it, which if fully felt will lead back to grief... the vitality affect of true grief."
1. We sense shame about ourselves
2. We employ a defense mechanism against the shame, e.g. the gray zone
3. Finally, we move out of the gray zone by going into homosexual enactment
Shame. It is prevalent. We should not defend ourselves from feeling it. We should allow ourselves to feel it fully so that we can experience the "vitality affect of true grief."
He never connected what he talked about--shame, that is--to true grief. But I think the Holy Spirit did.
When we can finally connect with our shame, our BROKENNESS, therein lies our healing. Because He loved us so much, He bore our shame on the cross and nullified it.
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